A major principle in how to approach resolving marriage problems:

This is one of the quotes that I use all the time in working with couples:


“… you ought not to worry so much about solving your marital problems as in dealing with the emotions they stir.” – John Gottman, Ph.D. page 175 Why Marriages Succeed or Fail

Here is another one:

"You can not change anything unless you first accept it.  Condemnation doesn't liberate, it oppresses." -- Carl Jung


What are your thoughts?