I know there will likely be few that read this post, so perhaps this will be more of a personal note; some thoughts on starting a business. Am I going to do it? That's the plan. I have wanted to for a long time and now is that time to get it together. As if I don't have a huge load already on my plate. My parents tried to teach me not to eat to fast or take too much food: "Your eyes were bigger than your stomach... huh?" Yep, but I can't rest.
My wife and son are spending some time together shopping. Our oldest daughter is watching Fantasia. Our youngest is taking her afternoon nap. And I am constantly switching positions and posture trying to deal with my sprained back. While basketball is fun, I guess I thought I was taller than I am. I guess one could say that I am not in the ideal condition or frame of mind to start a business. But hey, if not now, when?
I gained full licensure as an LCSW in September 2011. That was a long road, full of sacrifices, but as a family we have made it through. I have been learning a lot in my new position at DCFS as a post-adoption specialist. I am learning that there are not enough supports for families that have adopted when the adoption perhaps has turned the family upside down. Parents that mean well and have all the love in their hearts take on the challenge of adopting and they are not fully prepared for children with attachment disorders, trauma, mental illness, fetal alcohol or drug exposure, or other difficult situations. Parents look inward and blame themselves and grow to resent their child.
So is it the child's fault then? If it's not the parents, it must be just a difficult child! Well, perhaps society also hasn't figured out how to best approach the problems that come when families haven't functioned as they should have.
No system can raise a child like a healthy family can. I once had a co-worker put it well: "It's not that it takes a village to raise a child; It takes a village sometimes to help a family raise a child."
I wish you the best of luck in your new adventure! Starting a business is hard but can be very fulfilling. Every marriage can be strengthen no matter how strong it already is (or appears to be). I look forward to reading more of your words of wisdom. (Heidi Roemmele)
ReplyDeleteWhy Armistice Counseling? What is the signifince of Armistice? Good luck and lots of prayers.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the question: "Why Armistice Counseling?" Quite honestly I was using an online thesaurus for other words for peace. Armistice basically means an end to hostilities. Laying down the weapons. With World War I there was an agreement that went into effect on the eleventh day of the eleventh month at the eleventh hour for an end to the hostilities. While there were still problems that continued, that was a huge stride towards peace.
ReplyDeleteIn our marriages and our lives we are too quick to turn to weapons, fighting, and hurting others, and not looking inward at changing ourselves; whatever that change might need to be. Having peace and happiness is the goal for anyone. Some just get a little lost and aren't using the most effective methods to achieve that goal. As they say in Brazil: "Exemplo menos eficaz."
Maybe you should write a post answering that question. Others might appreciate your beautiful explanation. LYHYMYKY
ReplyDeleteHEy Marc, What a great work for you to take on. Coming from a family of three adopted children, I can tell you there really is a need for people like you. I wish I would have had some time with a counselor as it was a very big change in my life. Best of luck.
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